Stubborn Dogs

The word stubborn is always used in a negative way. I’ve never heard anyone say ‘I love how stubborn my dog is’. For a dog to be labeled as stubborn, two things are assumed.

1. That the dog has heard and understood your request, and

2. That they are intentionally choosing not to do it.

Now, often times these assumptions aren't quite correct, however lets say, that in a specific scenario, both of those statements are true.

Why is that such a bad thing?

What does it say about us, that when another sentient being has a different opinion to us on how they think they should behave, we think negatively of them?

The things we ask of our dogs, sometimes make no real sense.

It’s very common to see a guardian of a dog-reactive dog, tell their dog to sit, and look at them when other dogs are near. Sitting can be part of communication for dogs, and wanting to keep an eye on things you’re concerned about is natural for every species, so that request might feel completely wrong and unnatural for the dog. Yet we think we know best and that they should do it anyway because we said so.

For a long time, we have been preached that well-trained = good dog. But how much of themselves do dogs have to give up in order to become completely obedient to our wishes.

Next time you notice yourself thinking your dog is being stubborn, remind yourself that it’s ok if they have a different opinion from you. Ask instead, why might they not agree with what you want them to do? What might they prefer to do instead that also works for you?

It’s ok if they have a different opinion to you. It’s not an argument, it’s an opportunity to get to know your dog a bit better.

This can work wonders for your relationship, and build cooperation rather than obedience.